How to Support a Family Member or Friend Going Through Substance Abuse

Watching someone you love and care about in the throes of an addiction is incredibly difficult. It may bring up feelings of sadness, frustration, anger, fear and more. What will happen to that person if the addiction continues or worsens? What if that person’s addiction causes irreparable damage to your family, home, finances or life? Many people that have a friend or loved one struggling with addiction often experience both sadness and anger simultaneously but it is important to understand that there are many factors out of control that may be contributing to their addiction. Understanding this and getting educated about addiction will help you support a family member or friend going through addiction.
So often, it is incredibly hard for the non-addict to understand what the addict is “thinking.” Why would they continue to be addicted rather than seek help? Why can’t they just stop? Why can’t they see what they are doing is harmful to themselves and those around them? Don’t they care enough about their friends and family to stop? To understand addiction you must understand brain chemistry. There are three categories of addiction – use, abuse, and dependency. What starts out as use may slowly (or quickly) progress to abuse. And soon, abuse may become dependency. When an addict is in the stage of dependency, the brain has begun to change its biochemistry. Our brain’s function and thoughts release chemicals in our body. When we feel good and relaxed, it is because our body has released chemicals. When we feel fear and anger, our body releases chemicals that cause reactions in our body. As addiction and dependency continues on, particularly for long periods of time, the brain’s structure literally changes shape – holes where gray matter used to be. And those changes can dramatically impact decision making.
When supporting a family member or friend going through addiction, there are a few things you can do, or changes to your approach, that may help improve the situation and better support them to make changes in their lives. First, as previously mentioned, you must educate yourself on addiction. The more you know, the better equipped you will be to understand the situation, understand what might be contributing factors to the addiction, and better support your family member. Further, the more you know, the more likely you will be to have a compassionate approach to your interactions with them. So often, addiction is filled with shame, self-hatred, depression, and fear. When you are compassionate, and you encourage your family member to seek compassionate counseling, they will experience a judgement-free source of support that could give them the courage they need to make a change. As they seek professional behavioral therapy and addiction counseling, it may also be wise for you to seek counseling. A professional counselor will be able to provide you useful tools and a listening ear from an impartial position so that you can feel prepared to support your family member while they experience addiction counseling. For an experienced, knowledgeable, judgement-free addiction counselor in the Phoenix or Scottsdale area, contact Diebold Behavioral Therapy.

There are many topics that are easy to discuss with friends or loved ones, addiction is not typically one of them. While it may not be the easiest thing to bring up, the responsibility to do so may fall on your shoulders. Alcohol addiction can occur at any age or stage of life and there are often other contributing life-factors or psychological disorders that accompany it. Alcohol addiction can be tough to spot and may just look like casual “partying” at first for some. But casual partying can rapidly turn into something more – dependency. For others, the signs may be more apparent – lying, “needing it to relax”, blacking out, inability to stop, neglecting responsibilities, making dangerous choices while under the influence, and more. Your friend or loved one may even joke about it, make light of the situation, or completely insist there is no problem.

If you are concerned that your friend or loved one has an alcohol addiction it is important to approach the conversation without judgement and without shaming them. Though their addiction may sadden you, have caused emotional strain, or hurt you in some way, to successfully encourage them to seek help the best approach is to approach them from a loving perspective or – at a minimum – remain as neutral as possible. Their addiction and treatment is out of their control and beyond their ability which is why it is critical that they seek the help of a behavioral health professional. Addiction counseling is available for them and a good behavioral therapist will always approach treatment without any judgement. Always seek a behavioral therapist with experience and knowledge about addiction counseling because they will be familiar with the addictive process and the true impact of the addiction on the client as well as family, friends and their community. There are a variety of ways to treat alcohol addiction and the behavioral therapist, along with the input of the client, will determine what treatment plan is best. Options include Twelve Steps Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Rational Recovery (RR) – which is a secular discipline, or other forms of treatment and recovery. There is no one-size-fits-all approach because every person is unique and it is vital that the individual finds the right recovery program that they can stick with for the long haul.

If you are in the Scottsdale or Greater Phoenix area and you or someone you know needs a referral to a Behavioral Therapist with extensive experience in addiction counseling, Diebold Behavioral Counseling can help provide guidance and direct instruction on recovery from addiction to alcohol or other drugs. We have an addiction referral team in place that has a renowned DUI attorney, blood analysis expert and D.J. Diebold, a renowned behavioral health therapist to aid you in your recovery and treatment and help you meet any court mandated addiction counseling requirements as well. We want to help clients establish healthy coping skills and free themselves from alcohol addiction so that they can feel a sense of harmony and balance in their lives but it begins with the first step and sometimes that means a friend or loved one brings up a tough topic and helps restoration begin.

Phoenix Substance Abuse Counseling Alcohol and Drug Abuse Counseling in Phoenix and Scottsdale.

Offering a variety of counseling methods tailored specifically to help you cope with addiction.

Individualized one-on-one substance abuse counseling in Phoenix. No groups to distract from your individual needs. Addiction counseling is realizing that what defines addiction is the inability to stop drinking alcohol or using drugs. Together we will explore the underlying need to drink or use drugs.

Inappropriate coping skills like drinking alcohol excessively or drug abuse will be eventually replaced with healthy coping skills, such as open, direct, honest communication. Psychotherapy locates and revisits the sources of past traumatic experiences, eventually resolving these feelings and desensitizing to these issues.

Properly done, the client feels a sense of harmony and balance, known as homeostasis. Support groups such as the 12-Step Approach of Alcoholics Anonymous or the more secular approach of Rational Recovery are both recommended, depending on the client’s personal perspective.

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DJ Diebold, CAC, LISAC – 11485
Board Certified, State Licensed
Behavioral Health Therapist