How to Support a Family Member or Friend Going Through Substance Abuse

Watching someone you love and care about in the throes of an addiction is incredibly difficult. It may bring up feelings of sadness, frustration, anger, fear and more. What will happen to that person if the addiction continues or worsens? What if that person’s addiction causes irreparable damage to your family, home, finances or life? Many people that have a friend or loved one struggling with addiction often experience both sadness and anger simultaneously but it is important to understand that there are many factors out of control that may be contributing to their addiction. Understanding this and getting educated about addiction will help you support a family member or friend going through addiction.
So often, it is incredibly hard for the non-addict to understand what the addict is “thinking.” Why would they continue to be addicted rather than seek help? Why can’t they just stop? Why can’t they see what they are doing is harmful to themselves and those around them? Don’t they care enough about their friends and family to stop? To understand addiction you must understand brain chemistry. There are three categories of addiction – use, abuse, and dependency. What starts out as use may slowly (or quickly) progress to abuse. And soon, abuse may become dependency. When an addict is in the stage of dependency, the brain has begun to change its biochemistry. Our brain’s function and thoughts release chemicals in our body. When we feel good and relaxed, it is because our body has released chemicals. When we feel fear and anger, our body releases chemicals that cause reactions in our body. As addiction and dependency continues on, particularly for long periods of time, the brain’s structure literally changes shape – holes where gray matter used to be. And those changes can dramatically impact decision making.
When supporting a family member or friend going through addiction, there are a few things you can do, or changes to your approach, that may help improve the situation and better support them to make changes in their lives. First, as previously mentioned, you must educate yourself on addiction. The more you know, the better equipped you will be to understand the situation, understand what might be contributing factors to the addiction, and better support your family member. Further, the more you know, the more likely you will be to have a compassionate approach to your interactions with them. So often, addiction is filled with shame, self-hatred, depression, and fear. When you are compassionate, and you encourage your family member to seek compassionate counseling, they will experience a judgement-free source of support that could give them the courage they need to make a change. As they seek professional behavioral therapy and addiction counseling, it may also be wise for you to seek counseling. A professional counselor will be able to provide you useful tools and a listening ear from an impartial position so that you can feel prepared to support your family member while they experience addiction counseling. For an experienced, knowledgeable, judgement-free addiction counselor in the Phoenix or Scottsdale area, contact Diebold Behavioral Therapy.

There are many topics that are easy to discuss with friends or loved ones, addiction is not typically one of them. While it may not be the easiest thing to bring up, the responsibility to do so may fall on your shoulders. Alcohol addiction can occur at any age or stage of life and there are often other contributing life-factors or psychological disorders that accompany it. Alcohol addiction can be tough to spot and may just look like casual “partying” at first for some. But casual partying can rapidly turn into something more – dependency. For others, the signs may be more apparent – lying, “needing it to relax”, blacking out, inability to stop, neglecting responsibilities, making dangerous choices while under the influence, and more. Your friend or loved one may even joke about it, make light of the situation, or completely insist there is no problem.

If you are concerned that your friend or loved one has an alcohol addiction it is important to approach the conversation without judgement and without shaming them. Though their addiction may sadden you, have caused emotional strain, or hurt you in some way, to successfully encourage them to seek help the best approach is to approach them from a loving perspective or – at a minimum – remain as neutral as possible. Their addiction and treatment is out of their control and beyond their ability which is why it is critical that they seek the help of a behavioral health professional. Addiction counseling is available for them and a good behavioral therapist will always approach treatment without any judgement. Always seek a behavioral therapist with experience and knowledge about addiction counseling because they will be familiar with the addictive process and the true impact of the addiction on the client as well as family, friends and their community. There are a variety of ways to treat alcohol addiction and the behavioral therapist, along with the input of the client, will determine what treatment plan is best. Options include Twelve Steps Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Rational Recovery (RR) – which is a secular discipline, or other forms of treatment and recovery. There is no one-size-fits-all approach because every person is unique and it is vital that the individual finds the right recovery program that they can stick with for the long haul.

If you are in the Scottsdale or Greater Phoenix area and you or someone you know needs a referral to a Behavioral Therapist with extensive experience in addiction counseling, Diebold Behavioral Counseling can help provide guidance and direct instruction on recovery from addiction to alcohol or other drugs. We have an addiction referral team in place that has a renowned DUI attorney, blood analysis expert and D.J. Diebold, a renowned behavioral health therapist to aid you in your recovery and treatment and help you meet any court mandated addiction counseling requirements as well. We want to help clients establish healthy coping skills and free themselves from alcohol addiction so that they can feel a sense of harmony and balance in their lives but it begins with the first step and sometimes that means a friend or loved one brings up a tough topic and helps restoration begin.

DUI Counseling In Scottsdale, DUI Counseling in Phoenix and DUI Counseling in Mesa:

For court mandated counseling, contact us and develop a therapeutic relationship. The court will usually allow this relationship to continue, thus satisfying your court mandated DUI Counseling or your court mandated substance abuse charges. Both DUI Counseling and Substance Abuse Counseling with us is strictly one-on-one for the duration, as opposed to court referrals, which consist of group counseling.

Learn to believe in yourself again. Allow us to help you in this time of need.

DJ Diebold, CAC, LISAC – 11485
Board Certified, State Licensed
Behavioral Health Therapist

We offer DMV Driver’s License Reinstatement Evaluations in Scottsdale, DMV Driver’s License Reinstatement Evaluations in Phoenix and DMV Driver’s License Reinstatement Evaluations in Mesa:

Diebold Behavioral Counseling is on the Arizona State DMV Driver’s License Reinstatement approved list of facilities that can help you become reinstated with the Arizona DMV to apply for your driver’s license once again.

The cost is reasonable and entails approximately 1.5 hours of your time.

Please have your DMV Reinstatement Packet filled-out, with the exception of Part C, the clinical portion. Bring all relevant counseling attended and please fill-in all appropriate areas of the DMV Reinstatement Packet.

It is also known as the DMV Revocation Packet, though that name can be confusing to some. We’ve all made mistakes and getting a DUI is something that we can learn from. Drinking and driving can create traumatic consequences. Let us do your DMV Driver’s License Reinstatement Evaluation.

Learn to believe in yourself again. Allow us to help you in this time of need.

DJ Diebold, CAC, LISAC – 11485
Board Certified, State Licensed
Behavioral Health Therapist

Teen Counseling in Scottsdale, Teen Counseling in Phoenix, Teen Counseling in Mesa:

Peer Pressure isn’t just relegated to the elementary school playground. It may start there, but as we watched America showcase its runaway corporate greed, we have to ask: where did this all start? Peer pressure begins in elementary school and these behaviors must be re-learned so that appropriate conscience development is allowed to evolve in our children.

As a former clinician and counselor for the Illinois Department of Corrections, I dealt with teenagers who did not learn appropriate behavioral boundaries. I ran cottages of out-of-control teens who grouped in street-gangs, mostly for profit in the form of illegal drugs. Teaching boundaries teaches respect for self and others.

Teen counseling helps refocus our kids, which allows them to ultimately learn to be themselves. I can’t think of a greater gift.

Learn to believe in yourself again. Allow us to help you in this time of need.

DJ Diebold, CAC, LISAC – 11485
Board Certified, State Licensed
Behavioral Health Therapist

Codependency Counseling in Scottsdale, Codependency Counseling in Phoenix, Codependency Counseling in Mesa:

When does your love and support go too far? The stereotypical codependent waits for their partner to come home. Yes, they have a “few” drinks now and then. If I have the house clean, the laundry done, the meal made and the kids quiet, everything will be fine. The problem is that it never, ever seems to go that way. The codependent blames themselves for devastating disorders like alcoholism and its resulting instability in the family.

Stop getting abused and learn appropriate boundaries for your emotional health and stability. To ensure self-esteem, it is imperative that individuals know what healthy boundaries are and the codependent’s role in the dysfunctional family system. There is no health without good mental health. Please call. Let us help. It’s time to believe in yourself again.

Learn to believe in yourself again. Allow us to help you in this time of need.

DJ Diebold, CAC, LISAC – 11485
Board Certified, State Licensed
Behavioral Health Therapist

Anxiety Counseling in Scottsdale, Anxiety Counseling in Phoenix and Anxiety Counseling in Mesa:

Learn to control run-away feelings. If you’ve experienced out of control heart rate, palpitations, and increased blood pressure due to acute anxiety or panic, please call us. We coordinate the psychological aspects of treatment with our consulting psychiatrist who recommends and prescribes supportive medication, oftentimes on a limited time basis until counseling brings these feelings under control.

Understanding our fears and winning one small battle at a time with professional guidance can liberate you and allow you to relax and take control of your feelings. I will recommend occasional reading, such as Gerald Jampolsky’s “Love Is Letting Go of Fear“. His clarity offers amazing comfort to our clients.

Learn to believe in yourself again. Allow us to help you in this time of need.

DJ Diebold, CAC, LISAC – 11485
Board Certified, State Licensed
Behavioral Health Therapist

Self Esteem Counseling in Scottsdale

Self-Esteem Issues are discussed under D.J.s “Vision of Life” on this Home page. You’re more than the sum of what you’ve been told. Were you raised by well-meaning, misinformed parents, grandparents, foster parents or other “concerned” individuals? Have you felt abandoned or in the way? Finally, did you do anything to deserve feeling this way? The answer is: NO.

As a child, the fact of the matter is that you didn’t know that oftentimes in our society, children raise children. Emotionally immature parents raise immature children and the cycle of ignorance can perpetuate itself for generations.

Will you get the help it takes to break this cycle of chaos and unhappiness? Please, allow us to help. You deserve to be the real you and the happiness it can bring.

Learn to believe in yourself again. Allow us to help you in this time of need.

DJ Diebold, CAC, LISAC – 11485
Board Certified, State Licensed
Behavioral Health Therapist

Depression Counseling in Scottsdale, Depression Counseling in Phoenix and Depression Counseling in Mesa:

My personal definition of depression is anger turned inward. Learn to process these feelings with various techniques, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and other venting precesses which allow for desensitization to traumatic experiences such as physical, emotional and sexual abuse.

The client’s spiritual (not religious) reconstruction is essential to becoming whole again. Discovering who we are and why we came here are questions that have been debated since the beginning of man’s existence.

It’s not coincidental that there is only one of us out of seven billion humans on this planet. We each have a unique role and perspective.

Learn to believe in yourself again. Allow us to help you in this time of need.

DJ Diebold, CAC, LISAC – 11485
Board Certified, State Licensed
Behavioral Health Therapist

DUI & DWI Counseling In Scottsdale, DUI Counseling in Phoenix and DUI Counseling in Mesa:

For court mandated counseling, contact us and develop a therapeutic relationship. The court will usually allow this relationship to continue, thus satisfying your court mandated DUI Counseling or your court mandated substance abuse charges. Both DUI Counseling and Substance Abuse Counseling with us is strictly one-on-one for the duration, as opposed to court referrals, which consist of group counseling.

Learn to believe in yourself again. Allow us to help you in this time of need.

DJ Diebold, CAC, LISAC – 11485
Board Certified, State Licensed
Behavioral Health Therapist